Since the political IS personal (and the personal IS political), I wanted to try and make the whole No on Prop 8 movement a bit more concrete for anyone who STILL thinks we're whining about our "rights" and we should be quiet at the back of the bus.
It must have been about five years ago. The flush of new love, the feeling in our hearts that this was The One, a good bottle of Frei Brothers Cabernet and our cats curled up in our laps, and the words slipped out:
"Will you marry me if it becomes legal?"
"Sure."
"How about the civil union/domestic partnership thing in the meantime?"
"Sure."
We didn't get around to the second option. Life got in the way (ill parents, sister dying of cancer, work, friends' drama). And then, the California Supreme Court decided. Same-sex marriage was already a constitutionally protected right, and the laws preventing us from marrying were vacated. Within five minutes of the story hitting Yahoo!, I called my partner and proposed again. And the answer was Yes!
Again.
And the clock was ticking.
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